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Sunday, 14 July 2013

The boy with the hood a poem tribute to Trayvon martins.

He’s just a boy
Full of life
He loved his life
He’s just a teen
Full of  love and joy
His eyes bright with stars
Looking ahead with hope for the miles
He’s just a boy with the hood not a gun.
In cold blood he lost it all
For a sin he knew nothing about
Just like everyone else he walked the street
Only with skittles in his pocket not a gun.
Just like any other kid, full of life.
He had his hood on, bought from the shops
Designed by a big name somewhere famous and rich
But He’s just a boy who had to die.
In cold blood he lost his life
For looking who he is and not who he ought to be
In cold blood he lost his life
To a nation where he had every dream to live for
In cold blood he lost his life
The dreams dashed and gone with it
In cold blood he lost his life
To a law without regard to his life.
In cold blood he lost his life
And the law has a short hand to hold him up
In cold blood he lost his life
Like any other day, the world moves on
In cold blood he lost his life
Forever leaving his family empty and broken
In cold blood he lost his life
Because he’s Black.
But Trayvon was just a boy with a hood over his head not a gun.
© Faustina Anyanwu  14th July 2013.    - Pls share and stand for justice and equality.
Author’s note.
Sometimes we question what the law is for.
So many times we don’t get the answers. Just like today, we didn’t get it. But a boy is gone in a senseless way and no one is brought to book.
We must keep calm but yet speak out against the injustice.
I have used both present and past tenses together in some way to show that Trayvon lives on will continue to live.
I don’t know him in person but I can feel the pain of his mother. If he was my son what would I do. It doesn’t matter what colour he is. What’s important is justice for those who are victims.
Can there ever be true peace, love and justice in this world?
One love with much pain in my Black heart in the 21st Century.
Faustina Anyanwu
@fauntee.

Sunday, 2 June 2013

Black women authors - Chika Unigwe - The new distinct voice of African Literature.

In our time, Chika Unigwe has become one of the distinct voices of African literature. With several of her works - fiction, Poetry, articles and educational materials published both in journals, and as stand alone.
In 2003, Chika won the BBC short story competition for her story 'Borrowed Smiles', she also won the commonwealth short story award for her story 'Weathered Smile' and a flemish literary prize for 'De Smaak Van Sneeuw'.  She also won several other prizes including a nomination of her first short story written in Dutch 'The Secret  and another being nominated for the 2004 Caine prize. In 2007, she received the UNESCO - Aschberg fellowship for a creative writing and of a 2009 Rockerfeller foundation fellowship for creative writing too.
She became the first African Flemish author with her first novel 'De Freniks published in Dutch in 2005. Recently, she published her second novel 'On Black Sisters' Street'  which was first released in Dutch under the title, 'Fata Morgana. Today, 'On Black Sisters' Street ' have won also the NLNG prize for literature.

Monday, 20 May 2013

Registration begins for MBW premier free media and business networking conference 24th August at UCL


You are cordially invited to our premier conference at UCL on the 24th August 2013. This conference will not only introduce you to over 250 serious minded men and women in business, it will also help you understand the different strategies in using the media and PR to build your business into a global brand.
This event has been designed to be fun, engaging, interactive,entertaining and educating. 
There only two available sponsorship options for those who are willing to align their brand, business, product and or services with this one of its kind event.
MBW in collaboration with C.Hub magazine bring you one of a kind media and business networking conference. This conference is aimed at enlightening entrepreneurs on the value adding power of the media in building your business into a brand. You may have put in much effort and it has not yielded  with this conference you will learn how to approach the media, how to choose the type of media to align your business too. Understand how and when to approach media to get the best for your business.
This event is free and open to all however pre registration is required to control number as there are limited spaces available. 
Registration starts at 11.30 prompt to allow time to cover all aspects of the lecture.
                                                Event Highlights.
                                                 The Lecture.
Keynote lecture -Morton Patterson:  CEO- Morton Patterson consulting.
                            -Beverly Andrews  - Films director, Artist and Producer.
Speakers:            Emeka Anyanwu - Founder and Publisher C.Hub magazine.
                             Tola Onigbanjo  --- CEO Women4Africa .
Guests:               Obi Emelonye     --- Nollywood hit maker, director and Producer.
                      Q and A: A time to share opinions and ask questions.
                          Networking Break  and Refreshment.
                      Surprise surprise - remains a surprise to be discovered 
                                                   MBW bingo 
This event has been designed to be fun relaxed and educating. Come and discover the magic of projecting your value using the media.

*Note to attend this event, you must register first or you may be asked to page £10.00 before entry can be granted*.

For enquiries and sponsorship or exhibition contact: 
Gayle
myblackwoman@fauntee.com

My Black woman speaks to the first and only Black woman presenter on BBC radio Gloucestershire at the time - Evadney Campbel.


Evadney speaks to My Black woman of her journey through journalism and being the first and only black woman presenter on BBC radio Gloucestershire. This will by no means be a small shoe to fit. In our chat, she tells of it and why she had to leave after over 20 years to start her own business with her daughter. Read on to hear what she says...


You were once the only Black woman he BBC radio . How did that make you feel at the time?


I was not actually the only Black woman working at BBC Radio Gloucestershire, the team I worked with included other women of colour both from an African Caribbean and Asian background.  I was the first and only Black woman presenter on BBC Radio Gloucestershire.


What of now looking back and seeing where you are today?


It feels like a lifetime ago – and it is, it is over 25 years ago now and I would never have believed it would lead to where I am today.  I started presenting as a hobby with no real desire for it to become my career.  That journey has lead me into a job I have enjoyed immensely and now a future that I’m looking forward very much to, running my own Company.


How would you describe your time during those years?


I presented the magazine programme for BBC in Gloucestershire then, Bristol and Wiltshire were added for a total of 17 years from 1987.  I totally enjoyed that experience.


In 1999 after completing a PostGraduate degree in Broadcast Journalism, I joined the BBC as a full-time Broadcast Journalist.  Throughout my time with the BBC, which ended December 2012, I have been fortunate to have, had a wonderful experience.  The majority of my time with the BBC has involved me working with the community in particular those described as ‘hard to reach’ and as it was that interest in the community which lead me into the media in the first place, it felt that, my true calling was being met.  


The decision, which leads me to leave the BBC in the end, was the fact that I was no longer doing this, and did not believe the opportunity to work so closely with the community as a reporter would again become a reality.


Evidently, Black women are most likely not willing to tell their stories especially positive ones. Did this give you any compulsion to search out these stories?


I’m not aware of this fact; I spent a majority of my time as a journalist searching out stories, which had strong human interest.  I did not actively seek out stories, which were particularly about Black women.  Most of my time, particularly my years in news, were spent trying to unearth good news stories which I believed had strong news values and, which were therefore of interests to a wide cross-section of the community.  Sometimes those were stories, which may have particular impact on women but whilst I made specific efforts to dig out stories from the Black community, those were not gender specific.  I also worked hard at ensuring a balance reflection of our community on news stories I worked on.


You worked with BBC for over 17 years, why did you leave?


In total I actually worked for over 25 yrs. with the BBC.  Initially as a freelance presenter/producer and for almost 13 yrs. I worked as a Broadcast Journalist.  I left in the end because of a number of reasons, some mentioned earlier, but I also really wanted to work for myself and felt the time was right.  


During my years working in the community, I was also conscious of a need for small businesses, local charities and some voluntary groups particularly those from the BME communities to be trained on how to work with the media. I have always had an interest in giving those less able, the opportunity to be able to tell their stories through the media and I believe I will be able to do this through my Company.


Tell me about your PR venture, how is it getting on?


My daughter and I have formed a Public Relations and Media Training Company, Shiloh PR.  Shiloh PR specialises in public relations, media training and event publicity.
We aim to work with Companies, organisations and individuals that recognise the value of the multicultural market but do not know how to reach this target group, or have a niche brand they would like to reach the mainstream market, we have, we believe, a thorough, unique and up to date understanding of how to achieve this.
We have strong enviable contacts within mainstream, ethnic and grassroots media, especially those aimed at the African and Caribbean communities so understand the best way of ensuring that target demographic discover our clients’ event, product or service.
We also provide clients with a range of complimentary services including media training, photography, feature writing and social media advice.

You have an MBE to your name. How amazing?


It was amazing and a shock.  Something I would never in my wildest dreams imagine would happen to me.  I was awarded the MBE in January 1994 for ‘Services to the African and Caribbean Community in Gloucestershire’.  You can imagine, at that time, I had never met anyone who had been given such an award and did not even know how one got such accolades.  I had been doing voluntary work since I was in my teens.  It was something I was passionate about and, as explained above was the reason I was asked to present the specialist programme on BBC Radio Gloucestershire in the first place.


Although I am immensely proud of this, until recently, I did not really appreciate how significant this is.  I know it is contentious for some people to accept these honours but, for me my Community wanted me to accept it, they were very proud of my achievement and I now embrace it for them.


Are women embracing social media effectively to boost their businesses and self?


I think this depends on the age of the woman.  Young women totally embrace the use of Social Media to boost themselves as well as their businesses.  They really understand the importance of social media and are totally confident in using it to their advantage.


Part of the training Shiloh PR does with businesses and in particular women in business is to explain how effective social media can be but we also try to point out the dangers if you do not know how to use it properly.


Many people are using lots of different social media tools without really understanding how to use it effectively or even whether the ones they are using are the most appropriate for what they want to achieve.
How would you compare your days working with BBC and working for yourself as a PR guru now?


It is still very early days for the PR Company and I really wouldn't describe myself as a PR guru; the one important difference for me however is the freedom I now have to do the type of work I want to do.


I also love the joy of not having that dreaded ‘Sunday evening sick feeling’ that feeling you get when you think of having to go to work on a Monday morning.  I try to arrange my working hours to work from home on Monday mornings so I don't have that feeling.  


I love being able to decide my own working hours.  At the moment, even though I work until really late in the evenings, it never feels like work so I am loving working for myself.
What keeps you grounded given the challenges of running one's own business?


This is a tough one; at the moment, I am focused on the end result.  I have strong faith and therefore believe that everything will work out for the best. I pray on my decisions and believe in positive thinking. I am generally one of those people who always believe the glass is half full and if I do get down, which I do, I allow myself some time to feel that way but not to allow it to take over.


I love spending time with my family and friends and enjoy nothing better than entertaining them at home.  Cooking is my hobby.


You do have periodic media training and workshops, what do you tell women ?


I tell women to make the media work for them.  Don't be afraid to use it.  It is a great medium for exposing their services to potentially millions of new customers/clients.  Learn how to access it and identify the ways of maximizing their media opportunities.
What is your greatest fear?


That I am unable to achieve my ultimate dream of being able to work from anywhere in the world, so I can spend six months of every year in the UK and six months somewhere hot, preferably Jamaica.


I don't really have anything I can say I fear at the moment. I am just excited about the future and confident we will make Shiloh PR the ‘Go to’ PR specialist Company in the UK within five years.
Pearl!!!



Tuesday, 14 May 2013

Corinne when faced with going jobless and caring for her ill Son, she created a thriving business for herself.- She's Royal Head Wraps.

She has to stand up to her son's illness due to Sickle cell, she had to choose between keeping her work and becoming a stay at home mum. But then Corinne in the midst of it all tapped back into her natural gift to give it her all. Started her own business and now living a life that is balanced and today she can care for her son, and yet earn enough to keep the family healthy. Corinne shares her journey with all of this with my black woman.

Corinne Roberts.  Mother to young teenager, who has Sickle Cell Disease. The nature of his illness is that you never know when he'll have a painful crisis, resulting in him being admitted to hospital. Hence the reason She decided to become self employed.
A former secondary school Art and Design Teacher and had always relished the thought of working for herself.  She became more and more convinced, when my son has his first crisis and had to be hospitalised.  There she was doing her job, which she loved, working with children and having to be there for them, and felt she couldn't be with her son who needed her then, as teaching is not a profession where, you can be absent for too long as children need the consistency of a regular teacher.

"I continued teaching, but the more times he was admitted to hospital, the more I realised I need to have a job that would allow for me to look after my son when he was in a crisis." 
She then began working as a freelance  Jeweler tutor and Black History Month Presenter. Allowing her to fit in her working days around her son's sudden hospital admissions.  She also started doing Youth Work at another company, as well as co-ordinating all the Art and Design Summer programmes. 
"It was a fantastic company to work for as I was able to be truly creative as I am an artist first, educator second. The company Elevating Success procured a contract for me to facilitate my Head wrapping Workshop at a college as part of their Black History Activities, it was a hit!"




Finally  Corinne could set up She’s Royal Wraps in February 2012.  As the name suggests, it promotes the regality of head wrapping.  Through informative workshops, it dispels all the negativity that is sometimes associated with head wrapping. 
It serves in part as a retail outlet, where you can purchase African Print headwrapers.
What is different about She’s Royal Wrap head wraps, is that Corinne has created written literature that teaches one how to wrap in five easy steps, this is exclusive to my company. 

"I created it because, we all learn differently, and for some being there and seeing how I wrap will be enough for them to wrap themselves, but there are others for whom having the step by step, to hand, will find it particularly useful.  It also lends itself to be given as a complete present".







She's Royal Wraps also provides a range of Jewellery Making  Programs, Creative workshops and Head wrapping, at a variety of skill levels :

 team building workshops for employees :  which provides a chance for colleagues to unwind as they explore their creativity in a harmonious working group.

Intergenerational training: where parents, grandparents and carers can work alongside family members to create a display of jewellery items.

Themed workshops such as African Jewellery making as part of Black History Month.

Classes for 6-11 year olds during the school day or holiday time.
 Also available is a one - off taster days at school fairs.

For interest in any of these, contact My Black Woman - myblackwoman@fauntee.com 

Saturday, 13 April 2013

Get back to shape after the bump the easy way.

Style available
at Mothercare online and in shop
Getting back to shape and staying fit is one of the many problems that women face after birth. The thought of losing that super figure can be depressing for some.
 It's not all that bad news, there is always a way out in everything and this is not an exception.
We shall be discussing the simple ways you can help yourself back to shape in this text. Oh yes, you can without breaking the bank, still within your own schedule in the comfort of your own home. Well let's see.

Before we go on there are some don'ts you must put to your head first.

Don't
Don't starve to get back to shape, you could be harming your baby if you are breast feeding. If not breast feeding, you still need nutients to stay nourished.
Don't aim to lose more than 1 stone in a week. Easy does it.
Don't start strainous execises without hearing from your health care provider.

The Simple Dos to keep you fit.
1. Exercise: Regular exercise is a must do routine for you and your baby. The first 6weeks are the most trying time. But simple exercise are essential to keep the blood flow and circulation at it's best.
Simple exercises include:
a). Swinging your legs back and front while sitting at the edge of the bed.
b). Cycling in the air: while lying on the bed, raise your two legs in the air and pretend to br cycling. Stop as soon as you feel any discomfort.
c) Strolling: endavour to have a gentle walk down the street to gulp as much fresh air as possible.
d) simple strtching of arms and legs.

As soon as your health care provider has given you the go ahead, you can increase the intensity and add more routine to your exercises.
Walking out/jogging: As much as possible, it's better to walkout outdoors, but if this is not possible, you can enjoy as much in your home. How? Start with  your favourite dance tune,pretend to run to the beat without moving out of the spot. Do this as long as you can contain.
Glamour Waist Sculpt
M&S.


And don't forget to hold that 'flappy' up with some help from the glamour waist sculpt WYOB body from M&S. £29.50 available in store and online.


Bra on or Bra off, the bra war comes back thanks to scientists and their studies.

M&S spot frill bikini top£19.50
A French Prof. have sparked another Bra war after almost 5 decades that we have seen the Bra war calm down. It was in the 60s that feminists ditched their bras in a fight for their right. But today, it is far from the political jangle. The scientist have given us even more reason to keep our headlight on the full beam.
In his study with 320 women  within the age of 18 and 35, Prof Jean- Denis have weighed in heavily supporting the need for women to go braless branding it a 'false need'. He went on to say that both medically, physiologically and otherwise, breast do not benefit from the supposed bra support.
Claiming also that after a year of not wearing bra,the nipples of the participating women between 18 and 35 rose by about 7mm bigger on the average.
However, other women in the opposing school of thought have branded the findings useless and needless. Accepting though that bra could sometimes be uncomfortable but not as uncomfortable and embarrassing  as it is without the bra. One female commentator have said, if the support is needless, why then do we hold it with our hands when on the run. She would rather gag her thing with a bra as firm as M&S new range of bras.
Since the division in opinion I would like to know which side of the war are you, is it bra on or bra off for you?

Saturday, 9 March 2013

Irock sister to sister mentoring networking event: the review.

An evening studded with elegant and enthusiastic women who are eager to lead and make the change that we all most need. Viola Ncube set up the Irock UK to help women and young people who have dreams and need help getting to their destination. She has over the years developed the Social enterprise thanks to so many other professional women who have willingly volunteered to become mentors to these young people who needed to be directed and supported. Viola about 16years ago came to this country and worked as a carer, receptionist and all, but then an angel came took her by the hand mentored her on to her way up and today Viola is a Vice President in a hospitality and tourism industry. She wants to do the same for someone else, she is offering you the opportunity also to change a person's life, help a life to find it's destination.
In today's event, Gabby the woman leader of Shine another social enterprise that train mentors to be better and relevant to their mentees elaborated on the importance and the know how of mentoring.  We were all treated to a special refreshment at the luxury venue at The Height Bar, St George's Hotel Langham place Regent Street London.
With a section of interaction and networking with opportunity for attendees to get into the spot light, we heard different stories of how much ordinary people have been helped to achieve extraordinarily during their time as a mentee. Others have also developed their skills even as a mentor.

Gabby in her words, says mentoring should be a way of life where everyone can be a mentor and a mentee. At every point in our lives we need some form of direction or the other and we also find ourselves in a position to direct someone else. It is crucial for us especially women to take this as our challenge to help other women come up in life.
Women Need mentoring more because...
 Women in work place are more likely

1.To be less positive and confident
2. Women sometimes are unaware of their own image.
3. Assume they will be rewarded by working well and hard
4. Undervalue own skills, abilities and achievements.
5. Do not seize or create career opportunities.
6. Do not blow their own trumpet s and so on and on.

There are many issues why we need mentoring to make a change. Mentoring will help you to clarify your objective and keep you focused on same which is the key to a good result in mentoring relationship.
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Mentoring will help you to:
Build your confidence
Build your self esteem by providing honest feedback
Widen network by introducing you to their contacts.
Get independent perspective on work place issues.
Helps move you more outside of comfort zone
Analyse and develop your profile and much more.

Irock UK sister to sister mentoring doesn't end at the event it continues and it needs you the mentor and the mentee. To get involved go here.

President @Obama Reauthorizes the violence against Women Act, watch the video here

Straight from the White House.


Yesterday, President Obama signed a bill that both strengthened and reauthorized the Violence Against Women Act.
The new law will provide resources for thousands of victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, and stalking -- and better equip law enforcement officials to stop violence before it starts. After a great deal of effort and backing from folks like you, it passed with bipartisan support in both the House of Representatives and the Senate.
It builds on a law that Vice President Biden first wrote 18 years ago -- which has helped to decrease the rates of domestic violence across the country. It includes provisions aimed at reducing dating violence among teams and strengthening protections for lesbian gay, bisexual, and transgender victims. It also seeks to bring justice to Native American communities -- where rates of domestic violence are among the highest in the country.

Wednesday, 13 February 2013

What are you rocking on Valentines day to get those heads turning???

We all talk love and things on valentines day.  For me valentines day this year is all about loving myself. Self love girl. You get it? OK for real, I found these and thought you too will feel so good in them.
C.Hub magazine fashion editor left wearing Aria's boutique collection.

Aria's boutique


missguided.com

missguided.com

phazeeight.com
Which would you be going for.

Wednesday, 7 November 2012

President Obama Re-elected thanks to The First Lady: Michelle Obama.

It was a long hard fought race. One of the most stiff of campaigns in American political history. The most important election for families, the youth, women and all people who believe in the ideal that whatever you set your mind on to achieve and work towards, you will achieve. Victory for those who believe that it is not colour, connection , where you come from or in his words, "what you look like" that matters but the "content of your character". Congratulations to you all, to us and to America for making the right choice. For the First Lady, for all women and most importantly women of America.

There were times that it seemed that all hope was lost, the race became so stiff, too close to call, slipping away but you Michelle Obama, women of America stood unshaken. You continued to fight , you remained faithful and today we can see the result of your hard long fought battle. We can see the sound of your voice heard- Victory . Women stood behind him and we have been able to make the decision. 55% is not a joke.

Imagine a world without the influence of the woman. Imagine a nation without women speaking and making their voices heard. Imagine today without the First Lady or women of America. The result would have been a different story. This is just a tip of the iceberg what can happen if all women can make a decision to make a change in their own simple way, in their homes, in their niche, in every little way they can. Then there will never be anything like women marginalisation again in the dictionary.

Truly, we have to congratulate and celebrate this woman, The First Lady- Michelle Obama. (as a matter of fact a woman I adore so much and try to emulate). For her believe, for her trust, for her hard work, for her steadfastness. Twenty years ago she saw the truth, the light and believed in it. She did not just sit down waiting for the light to come, but she made it come. She worked tirelessly, she sacrificed, she continued to believe through the hills and the valley, through the rough and the slippery. She is today the victory that we have seen. This is a lesson for every woman to learn. You have the power to take your family to the direction you believe is right. As women, if we believe, we can make our voices heard and take the world to the right direction that we believe will benefit our children's futures. Today, it is no longer cool to appear as powerless in our ideal. Now get up on your feet, make the move and make the change just as Michelle Obama and women of America have done.

Congratulations my lady! Love from My Black Woman!!!.

Friday, 20 April 2012

5 most important things you must tell your daughter before she is 12!

1.Hopelessness never creates a future:

 My daughter never feel hopeless in any situation, rather use every opportunity to create a successful ground. Self pity will never lead you any where. Be optimistic and focus on who you want to be and get on with it. What you don't have should never determine where you get.

2.Never fight your critics:

It is never a good idea to fight those who criticise you. Rather look in to what they have said , they might have a point, learn from them and get better.

3.Never say I can't until you have tried:

 Practise they say makes perfect. This is very true and will remain so. Most successful people i know started from when they didn't really know it. But the learnt while doing it. The difference between the good, the better and the best is that extra effort. Keep trying as long as you still have life. Don't give up, don't give in and don't let go.

4.There is always a better way out:

 It is not important to say I did the right thing. What's more important is that you are still doing the right thing. Whatever you have done today will always have a better way to do it tomorrow, because the worl is always on the move. Therefore, seek always for wisdom, learn a new skill at any give opportunity. Ask questions, listen and try what you learnt.

5.There is never a free launch:

 Don't ever believe you can get a free launch. Every package comes with it a price tag, if not favour, then cash. So don't take any gift if you are not sure or ready for the price tag.


These are  life important words every girl should know before she gets into the world. Share this  with those you truly love and care about.!

Pearl!

Thursday, 12 April 2012

5 things you should never do on your date.

Talk about your Ex: Never leave traces of your ex, either by way of talking about him, his favourite food, his picture etc. Nothing should suggest you are still interested in him. Every man is egocentric and wants to be the centre of attention(atleast) from you . Why not make him feel like the prince even for this moment.

Engage with your smart phone: tweeting and replying to text and facebook updates at this time is a very bad idea. This is rude and distracting not when you are out to seduce.

Shabby and unkempt out fit: its safer to go subtle, soft , gentle and comfortably dressed. Stay moderate in everything. Perfume not heady and strong smelling. Hair, nails, all groomed. Bad idea to have much fake things going on.(lashes, nails, etc) keep them toned down.

Argue or dominate the opinions: Its always better to listen than to argue especially at this situation. It is not the time to make your point. Better still listening will help you get to know more about him which will help you make up your mind on the way forwards. Learn to stay calm when you are put off. Never react aggressively or violently, rather if things are getting awfully against your taste, find a subtle way to excuse yourself  before it gets too late.

Appear or conduct yourself in a cheap manner: Now seriously, getting drunk, nagging, sighing, picking on people are not at all CHIC. Be in control of yourself and be on your game. Keep him at the tip of his seat wanting more and more of you. When you are sure your game is working its the best time to go. By doing so, you leave a taste on his pallet that he will come looking for more.
                                                 
                                                 Pearl!

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Wednesday, 11 April 2012

Jazz up your relationship with seduction and not Portion!

Picture by Vlado
Hello! my pearl woman, are we still talking of women empowerment? Come on! You got the power use it! Seduce the power out of your man ...

Seduction in it's fairness is an act and not a sin for crying out loud. Every relationship needs romance (constantly) to survive.  One secret, men want their woman to give it to them(don't let them know you've found out yet).

There's already much stress out there. No body wants to come back to a war front. aaaarrrrh! Put some life to your love Woman! You are the salt of the earth including your love and man. Spice things up with some winking , lash flicking, and tactile moves.  Not what you said, not what you did, not what you are wearing but how you did it. Bring out the man in your man. Now wait, am not talking of sex yet. No we are still on getting him to want more and more.

Seduction is about confidence, self value, adding style and elegance to every touch, every word, every move.Seduction(not sex) gives you the woman, the power to thread where the most powerful dare to go. Seduction is sublime and gets the higher pay than jump in sex trust me.

A good seductress is at work at all times. Think of it, you never know when the target will be watching (bad girl) She launches her war at every opportunity no need to wait. Keep him restless and begging to go home. After all he's your man (oh well new catch who knows) The important thing is that you got him wanting you more and more. So girl, it's a good idea to always have your arsenal ready and positioned.
                                                                 Pearl!
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Thursday, 8 March 2012

Who we are: Is in our hands!

There has been eye winking even from very close friends ever since I started this blog in recognition of the achievements and contributions of black women to the world. They don't understand why it is necessary to talk about these things.What's the big deal some ask.

The big deal I would say is, that it is the time for us to be the ones to define who we are. The era of sitting back and watching and moaning is gone and gone forever. A people who do not recognise the efforts of their own people have themselves to blame. We have moaned and blamed "them" for ages for not recognising black achievers. But my question is who are they? My grand mother would say, "if a person does not say here I am, how will anyone know where she is."

As women, Pearl women for that matter, it is right now in our own hands to make it happen.We got our future and that of our house hold in our hands. No doubt the black race has gone through it all. But today our focus is on "moving on and keeping it up." We have to let our children know who we are, where we are coming from and where we are headed to. There is no other person to do that. So many women at the peak of racism and slavery stood up and firm on their feet to make way for the freedom fighters. How much more now that everything has been laid bare to us.

Having said that, it is necessary that we begin to support sisters who are working night and day to make a difference. It is important for us to have records of these achievements just as it is for us to celebrate these achievements too. This can never be over emphasised because it is the stepping stone for the generation to come. A people without history are a people without future, and there is no history if there is no records.

Have you asked yourself, why does it seem as if the black race have got nothing to offer except poverty? If you don't know I will tell you that it's because for ages, we have handed down a legacy of low profile on those of people who are achieving. So that they are soon forgotten leaving no traces of them and their work. If these efforts are not recognised and honoured, how then do we motivate those behind us?
For me, knowing that there are whole lot of Black women out there doing their best to make the world a better place has a very huge impact on my pride and self esteem.

I was watching the NBA on Saturday(4th march) and there were Chinese all over the stadium and i wondered what's going on? Before I realised there was Jeremy Lin the first Asian-American player in the pitch. Goodness, the support was enormous. Who could possibly ignore this guys presence give this huge support that out numbered that of the whole other players. Impressive! Now I ask you again, how often do you give your support when a sister or brother is doing it? How often do you buy tickets to go watch match, movie, film, sports etc, when a Black is starring? Come on! This is business, who wants to buy a guy who no one is interested to buy his shirts?

Now that you know can we please celebrate our efforts, show some interest in who we are and what our fellows are doing before asking that others recognise us? Be Black, be proud, work hard and yes we can!